Will I Ever Find Love?
Sometimes it can seem like there’s no one out there for you—or if there is, that you’ll never meet him or her. Being single is tough, but maybe it’s not forever. With the Internet, it’s becoming a little easier to meet people.
Sandra from Newport News, VA writes:
“I’m 28 years old, and I’m starting to feel like it’s just never going to happen for me. Maybe romance was something I was supposed to find when I was younger, and now that I’m out of school, maybe it’s just too late for me. Will I ever find love?”
Hi Sandra. While that’s not a good feeling to have, you can console yourself at the same time by realizing that you’re not the only person out there who feels that way. There are so many singles out there who feel exactly like you do—that they’re alone in the world, and that they’re approaching their expiration dates. But the reality is that with so many singles feeling that way, your special person could be out there right now wondering where you are.
There’s also a chance that person is online searching for you! It’s hard to meet people online or in person—but there are certainly a lot more people to meet online, especially if you live in a small town (and I can see that you do). Online you get a chance to meet people in your area or far beyond it. It can be useful to confine your online dating to a small radius since then you can more easily meet people in person, but sometimes you do need to look beyond your region or state or even country to find someone really great.
One tough thing about online dating is that a lot of people who join online dating services aren’t looking for love at all—just for a one-night stand. And while it’s true that one-night stands have turned into long-term relationships, it doesn’t usually occur. Ironically, that may be a good reason to extend your search beyond your area—or to observe a careful timeline in meeting someone from the internet in person. You want to meet offline to ensure that your relationship isn’t a pipe dream, but you don’t want to meet so soon that you don’t know if the other person is looking for the same thing you are. Someone looking for a one-night stand is less likely to spend a few months making the effort to meet you than someone looking for a real relationship.
Whatever you do, don’t give up on your dream of finding someone worthwhile. You will never meet anyone if you aren’t willing to let the chance for love exist. It’s never too late to find someone to spend your life with, and you have to be willing to let that search take some time. Your patience can pay off, but despair certainly won’t. So try joining some online dating sites and meeting other singles—there are others out there looking for love, just like you!