How To Get Over Someone
We recently received a letter from Jennifer who was really struggling to get over her ex-boyfriend. This is a common problem that plagues a lot of relationships that are ending so let’s take a look at it.
Jennifer from Alabama writes:
My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me about 2-3 months ago. Naturally, I was heartbroken as I did not see this coming. I thought everything was ok, but apparently he was not happy because he said he had found someone else. I’m really struggling to get over him even though I suspect he may have been cheating on me all along.
I feel like I should call him, but I don’t know if that is a good idea. I can’t believe he already has someone else after we were together for over 3 years. I’m really confused and upset. Please help!
One of the hardest things we all face in life is getting our hearts broken. It can be very devastating when someone we love decides they do not love us. Although it might feel like you will never get over him, I can assure you that is not the case. It is perfectly natural to feel the way you do, and unfortunately it is just going to take some time before you are 100% over him. There are some things you can do though to make this process easier.
First, spend more time with your friends and family. When trying to heal emotionally it is important to surround yourself with a good support system. Your friends and family can help you talk about your emotions and slowly start to put them behind you. Plus they will help you to keep him off of your mind.
Second, spend some time working on yourself. Focus on your career or kids if you have them. Learn new things. Take up a new hobby. These are all things you can do that will keep your mind off of your ex-boyfriend. It is important to stay busy as this helps the healing process.
Third, make sure you do not communicate with your ex-boyfriend. Many times we will be tempted to call our ex, but in the end it just makes the situation worse. Even if he calls you I would encourage you to ignore him. Do not allow him to toy with your emotions. Tell yourself that you are going to move on, and that is final.
Finally, when you feel like you are emotionally stable you should start dating again. This is not something you should rush into. Rebound relationships almost never last, so wait until you are feeling better emotionally.
Getting over someone is never easy especially when it was a long term relationship. It usually feels like you will never get over that person, but time will eventually heal your wound. Stay busy and focus on the important things in life such as friends and family, and you’ll be over him sooner than you think.
This post is courtesy of Kj Locksmiths