How To Get A Girls Number
Asking a girl out is tough enough, but before you can do that, you may need to get a girl’s number. Often you meet that really interesting woman at some bar or public place, and before you really get a chance to know her, she’s walking out the door. What do you say or do at that critical moment so that you’ll have a chance to talk to her again? How do you get a girl’s number?
Henry from Chattanooga, TN writes:
“I met this awesome babe at the discotheque the other night, and I really wanted to talk to her again, but when it came time to go I just had no clue what to say and I let her walk right out the door and out of my life, and I’ll probably never see her again. If I do though, I don’t want to be such a fool twice. Or if there’s some other amazing chick, I don’t want to lose my chance to meet her. How do I ask for a girl’s number?”
Getting a girl’s number is never easy for some of us, especially for shy people. We worry that we are trespassing, that we are presuming, that we are going to look foolish or idiotic. The only really foolish thing though is just what you said—passing up the moment which could change the course of your life and someone else’s. In some cases we look back and wonder if maybe that girl was thinking the exact same thing—wondering how to ask us out. And who knows? The only way to know is to be the one who takes the initiative and ask.
Is there a right way to do this? There may not be a right way, but there are plenty of wrong ways. One wrong way is to flat out ask. You shouldn’t do this because it imposes—what you can do is hand a girl your own number. If she likes you already, she may turn around and write down hers! Another trick is to simply start a friendly conversation. This might turn into her wanting to have another—and then she’ll give you her phone number. Casual is usually best, and don’t make her feel like there’s any pressure to call you or to give you her own number. If she doesn’t feel like you’re being pushy your chances are far better.
Getting a girl’s number isn’t necessarily easy, and it’s neither an art nor a science. But what it does involve is some common sense, politeness, and decency. In most cases the best results come from the simplest approaches: Be forthright, friendly, polite, and always give the girl the upper hand. Let her know that the choice is hers, and that you respect her decision to talk to you again or not. By giving her this space you are most likely to be handed that all important slip of paper with her phone number written on it!