How To Date A Girl
You’ve finally gotten the girl of your dreams to go out with you—the hard part is over, right? Not for all of us. Some of us spend so much time trying to figure out how to ask a girl out that we don’t know what to do once she says yes!
Jim from Indianapolis, IN writes:
“I asked this girl out in my English class who I’ve been wanting to ask out all year. I was pretty shocked when she actually said yes. Now, I’m glad she said yes of course, but I just realized I never actually thought about what would happen if she did. I don’t know what we should do or where we should go. How do I date a girl? What do girls like to do?”
Hello Jim, and congratulations on getting her to say yes! It sounds like you already must be doing something right. I find that one of the best first dates isn’t actually dinner—it’s coffee or a drink. The reason for this is that it puts a lot less pressure on both of you. If things get awkward, you finish your drinks and you leave. If things go well, then you just order another drink and carry on in the coffee house or bar as long as you’d like. So this would be my first suggestion.
While you’re on this first date, you will have a chance to get to know the girl better. If you feel comfortable together, find out what she likes to eat and maybe you can go get dinner on your next date or even do so later that day if you want. Find out what she likes to do in her spare time. Is she an active, athletic girl? Does she enjoy films? Does she spend a lot of time online? Does she enjoy hanging out with groups of people or is she more of a one-on-one kind of girl? This can help you in planning future dates. Don’t be afraid to flat out just ask her for suggestions. And if she proposes a date outright, then your problem is solved.
There are lots of different things you can do on dates. You can do the typical dinner and a movie date, or you can go to a museum or on a walk or a drive. If she enjoys outdoor sports and you do too, you could go hiking or swimming together, etc. If she likes watching sports, you could go to a game together. If you both like the same music, you could go to a concert. There’s really no limit to dating ideas. Dating a girl is a lot like hanging out with any friend, except you probably will focus more attention directly on her and less on the shared activity. This varies though; personalities determine how people interact romantically. Everyone has different ways of getting to know each other.
Those suggestions should be enough to get you started. Good luck and have fun with your new girlfriend!