Dating Tips For Women
It can be hard to meet someone offline if you aren’t in school; after you’ve gotten to know everyone at work, you’re pretty much out of places to look except for local bars and clubs. Online dating sites promise you can meet your perfect match on the internet, but if you do find that perfect guy, how do you date him online before meeting him in person?
Cali from Eugene, OR writes:
“I just joined an online dating site for the first time in my life. I used to think I’d just find someone in ‘real life,’ but I’m tired of waiting. I see profiles of guys that interest me, but I’m at a bit of a loss. How do you ‘date’ a guy online? I thought dating was when you went out to dinner and a movie with a guy and enjoyed some romantic interludes, but clearly you can’t do that online. Please give me some tips for how to proceed!”
Hi Cali. The internet has redefined how we relate to people, and redefined a lot of our terms for relationships too, including dating. Indeed dating used to mean dinner and a movie or some other activity offline, but nowadays the definition is a whole lot broader. Now when people say they are ‘dating’ someone on the internet, they mean they are in a romantic relationship with that person. How can you actually experience that relationship without being able to do stuff in person?
For everyone the answer is different. It all depends on what you need, and how you connect to someone. For a lot of people, online dating really comes down to conversation, and all that takes place in a text box. This is a very intellectual way to relate to a person, but a lot of people enjoy it and find it forms enough of a basis for a romantic relationship. Talking on the phone or webcam can add more of a physical dimension to a virtual relationship.
If you do need some kind of an activity to share with the guy you’re dating online, there are a lot of ways around the distance. You can choose to eat dinner at the same time, or go see the same film on the same day. You might decide to read a book at the same time and talk about it on the internet, or participate in the same sporting activity and share your progress. Basically everything you’d do together offline you can both do offline on your own and then share your experiences. In a very concrete sense, this is doing an activity together, just not in the same physical space.
If you want, you can also see if there are any shared activities you can do together online. Lots of women choose to participate in the same online forums and communities as their long distance boyfriends. It is increasingly common for online partners to join virtual worlds like Second Life or online RPGs to have a “space” in which to interact.
So as you can see, there are a lot of options. Keep them in mind when you finally do find a spark with a guy online!
About the author:
Emily Fisher blogs about dating, and in particular meeting Christians for dating