Betting On My Boyfriend In Vegas
When you are in a relationship and you decide to move away with your significant other, sometimes it can take some time to get used to it. Other times, the changes that happen make you realize that this isn’t going to work out for you and you need to move back home.
Molly from Vegas writes:
My boyfriend and I recently moved to Vegas so he could pursue his career as a professional poker player. I have been very supportive of his decision since he really seemed interested and I really want to be a good girlfriend. However, since moving to Vegas four months ago, we never spend time together anymore. He is always at the casino or at a friend’s house playing poker. I understand that it takes long hours and practice to get to the standard of a real pro but I think that he should make time for me and us as a couple too. He always took me out for dinner or a movie at least once a week when we still lived in California but now I barely even see him at our own dinner table. How can I make him see that I support him but need more than what he is currently giving? If things don’t change, I may consider moving back to California.
Hey Molly,
As a poker player myself I can understand the long hours that he is putting in and the practice that it does take. As with any new career you have to put forth a strong effort in order to make it work. However, that does not excuse the fact that he is ignoring his responsibility as a boyfriend especially since you two are living together. Have you tried discussing things with him? If not then it’s time to put your foot down and demand some answers. Don’t come off as controlling but make it obvious that you miss the time that you all share together and consider asking him out on a date.
You could ask him to attend a concert or show that you have never seen before. Fortunately living in Vegas you always have some kind of show or event available so find something that you are both interested in. Let him know that you really miss being with him and that you would like it if he could make more time for you. There are tons of ways you can spend time together such as cooking an earlier dinner if you know he needs to practice at certain times or plan to have lunch together instead of dinner. If he has a favorite hobby ask if you can tag along for the day so you two can spend some time together.
The big thing you want to avoid is making him feel like his efforts towards the new career are not really working out. You did move to a whole new state for him so that shows you care but don’t give up on the relationship just yet. He could actually be stressed himself and trying to get things in order and may not really be thinking about the impact that it is having on your relationship. Honestly, it doesn’t really sound like you have discussed this issue with him and who knows he may be more than willing to change things around a bit. It seems like you really care about the guy so do what you can to fix things before giving up what might really be the right guy for you.
